Date Nights

Date nights are important when you’ve been with someone for a long time. Either planned or not, occasional dates can keep the spark alive. In addition they can be so much fun.

Recently my workplace sponsored some fun activities for the community to participate in. One was a Paint and Sip so I signed us up! Date night! I had never seen my husband paint anything except walls in the house and bee hives, but I didn’t think about that when I purchased our tickets. I know he is usually up for a new adventure and he doesn’t hesitate to humor me when I come up with kooky ideas.

The date was last Thursday evening and we had a great time. I think Dave especially appreciated the ‘sip’ part of the Paint & Sip. As it turned out he was the only male at the event. One way to look at it is that he actually had 16 dates that night. Being the good sport he is he jumped right into the adventure and went for it.

Our theme was pansies in a flower garden so it was quite challenging. Fortunately, the instructor had already drawn the design on our paper and she did have photographs available as a reference.Our teacher only gave us primary colors to work with so we had to be creative in mixing our colors, which was interesting. What I loved most was the way every person’s painting came out a bit different from the others, but they were all appealing in their own right.

Here are the end results ~ I’ll let you try to figure out which is mine and which is Dave’s. Both frame-worthy, you can look for them on our walls next time you visit.

Battle of the Spouses

So, I play this game with my husband, though he isn’t aware of the game. He opens doors, cupboards, drawers and I close them.

That’s it – very simple really. It feels very competitive, but no one ever wins. It’s a game that can drag on and on – I’ve been playing it for years now. It’s funny that he doesn’t know he’s playing. I am hoping one day he will stop playing, because in reality I get quite fed up with the game at times.

However, the other day, I just had to laugh about it. There I was closing the closet door for the umpteenth* time that day alone, and it struck me as hilarious that this game has gone on for so long. I have often wondered what it is about my spouse that causes him to resist (refuse?) to close doors and drawers that he’s opened. And yes, of course, I’ve also wondered about myself and what it is about me that insists they be closed. I mean, to me it’s obvious – if all the kitchen cabinet doors were left open it would be a dangerous place to walk into – risking harm to a variety of bodily parts.

Perhaps my husband considers it efficient, to keep the doors open, which could save time and energy when you needed something from the cupboard. If that is the case then why have doors on the cupboards at all? Take them all off and go with the open look. (Lord, please no – don’t let him even suggest this!)

I prefer the look of a neat and tidy space with doors all closed (to hide the mess behind, most likely). Maybe it’s a holdover from my childhood and throwing everything behind the closed closet door when told to clean my room. Was I the only one with fingers crossed, holding my breath, hoping that my mother wouldn’t check the closet when she inspected my room?

Anyhow, the way I see it is that I have two choices here: either get upset and have a fit about the doors being left open or just continue to close them and laugh a bit to myself each time I do.

*Definition of umpteen

: very many : indefinitely numerous

umpteenth play \-ˌtēn(t)th, -ˈtēn(t)th\ adjective

When You’re Missing Something

It has been months since I wrote an actual blog post and I miss it terribly. Not having time to write creatively has made me realize how much I enjoy that kind of writing. And how much I miss it.

So, today, as I sit watching the first storm of April 2017 outside my office windows, I’ve decided that I am going to take the time to do some free writing. My hope is that it will be today’s blog post AND that it will spark more regular writing, and therefore more regular posts here again.

When life gets busy the natural consequence is that you have to give up some things. With a new job, finishing my yoga certification, taking some courses, having a new grand-baby, beginning to teach yoga classes. . .it’s the writing that has fallen by the wayside. Throughout the last few months I have realized that I need creativity in my life. Creativity and the space to be creative.

In recent weeks some parts of my job have become particularly challenging and I found myself falling into some old patterns of negativity and angst. Both emotional reactions that can result in an overall sense of unhappiness. I know from past experience that in order to bring stability into my life a creative outlet is necessary.

It is the habits we cultivate in life that make us who we are and we certainly can cultivate negative habits as easily as positive ones. Any habit is the result of practicing that habit, therefore I will need to get back into a routine of regular writing. It is not easy to change habits because it requires a great deal of commitment, will power, and focus. Sometimes a mantra (“Just write” ~ “You can do it”) is helpful and making the time is essential.

Starting small will allow me some feeling of success and that will be a reward in itself. This is a time to let the ‘noise’ of the world around me dissipate ~ listening to the voices that say “not good enough”, “not enough”, “no one cares” will not prove helpful, so I will practice pushing the negative noises away and replace them with affirmations like “I did it”, “every voice is important”. In this way I am creating a sense of positivity related to the habit I want to increase.

To cultivate is to prepare and use something, so in order to cultivate the habits I want in my life I will need to dig, hoe, mulch, and weed as necessary to ensure I am providing the most fertile ground for the habits to thrive in. As the words begin to take root and grow that will be the encouragement to maintain the habit and return equilibrium to my world.

Sunday Gentle Yoga ~ April 2, 2017

This Sunday morning practice is designed for those new to yoga. The practice will focus on proper alignment, gentle stretching to avoid stiffness and asanas (poses) to improve balance and flexibility.

Sunday, April 2, 2017
9:00 am to 10:15 am
East Burke Club House
$10.00 per person/per session

Gentle Sunday Morning Yoga – March 12, 2017

This Sunday morning practice is designed for those new to yoga. The practice will focus on proper alignment, gentle stretching to avoid stiffness and asanas (poses) to improve balance and flexibility.

March 12, 2017
Burke Mountain Clubhouse
9:00 ~ 10:15 am
$10.00/session per person

This week’s class will be restorative, focusing on stretching and lengthening; flexibility; and a bit of work toward beautiful breasts and chests!

I hope you can join me!